Transvestia

indication of very poor grooming. Thus a big pro- blem in seeking acceptance, and also in our relat- ions with the outside world, is to be able to com- promise our masculine and feminine sides while actually not damaging to any serious extent the male appearance in which we are seen most of the time. If we don't destroy the man without, and keep the love of our wives, we can with patience achieve acceptance.

A Word From Sally's Wife

When I first discovered my husband's transvest- ism, I was shocked, disappointed and appalled. After fortifying his courage with a strong drink (I had never seen him so shaken), he proceeded to discuss the matter. I had never heard of a transvestite, as I'm sure most women haven't due to their shelter- ed backgrounds painted with rosey pictures of mar- riage and the American way of life. I had, however, some knowledge of homosexuals through jokes heard in college and visits to my local beauty salon, and I associated him with this group. This was the hard- est thing for me to overcome. Although he thought my thinking along this line ridiculous and was hurt by it, he nevertheless continued my education with patience and honesty. I know now that my husband is as much a man and more than any other I have ever known. I still harbor the fear, however, that if anyone else found out about my husband's hobby, they too might make the same erroneous conclusion. This could ruin him professionally and socially; there- fore, we are most cautious. I appreciate this. If it were otherwise, my attitude might be different.

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